Friday, 3 May 2013


3 Differences Between Masturbation and Self-Pleasure

Devi Ward TantraI read an article recently by a woman, describing the differences between how men fantasize about us masturbating, and how most of  us women actuallydo masturbate, which she described as a somewhathalf-hazard, fast and furtive process.
Her description of female masturbation seemed very similar to the way a 14 year old boy probably masturbates, under the covers at night, stifling his sounds of pleasure, hoping -to -god no one comes in before he’s finished.
Hell, forget a 14 year old boy, that sounds like the masturbation modus operandis of  most adults I know, both men and women.
Minding our P’s and Q’s…Privately, Quietly and Quickly!
Which got me to thinking about the differences between masturbation and self-pleasure.
Masturbation, of course, would be the familiar scenario which I described above, which  probably 99.9% of adult humans can relate to.
So what is self-pleasuring? And how (besides the name), does it differ from our usual self-stroking?
#1) The first difference is my state of mind.
We have been taught as a society that self-stimulation is shameful, wrong, dirty, embarassing, etc.
We know that people do it, (especially men), and it’s accepted that they do, but it’s thought of more as a way to release physical and emotional “urges”.
Essentially a way to get rid of “too much” energy or  emotional agitation. A form of stress release. Which yes, absolutely it is.
But that’s not ALL that self-stimualtion can be used for, as just a genital pressure valve so to speak.
If we approach self-stimualtion from only that angle, our focus is mostly on the end result of the journey, and not on the sweet subtle communications of our body, which occur along the road to orgasm.
These subtle fluctuations of pleasure, energy and arousal are a sort of language, and when we take the time to notice the ebb and flow of sensation, (our awareness, our breath), the act of self-stimulation becomes an internal dance of self-discovery and self-awakening.
When we approach self-stimulation with an attitude of  self-love and exploration, a new realm of personal connection, personal intimacy, and personal empowerment is awakened.
No longer does our sexual satisfaction lie in the hands of another!
We become responsible for our own sexual enjoyment, and we become personally empowered by the ability to meet our own needs for sexual satisfaction.
#2) Another  way in which self-pleasuring differs from masturbation is the time that we devote to the activity.
No more furtive rubbing under the sheets, choking back moans of pleasure, while we attempt to set a new world record for quickest climax!
Self-pleasuring is an act of love, we are literally making love with ourselves, and as we all know that takes time.
How much time is up to you, but I recommend setting aside a good half-hour to an hour at least, just to be with yourself and explore your sexual sensations.
#3) A third way in which self-pleasure differs from traditional masturbation, is in our motivation, our intention.
In masturbation, orgasm is the goal, and we are aiming to achieve that goal as quickly and quietly as possible.
With self-pleasuring, well, the pleasure itself is the goal…. and the self-discovery that arises naturally as a result of taking time and awareness to explore our sexuality.
My personal self-pleasuring practice has facilitated the healing of some of my deepest emotional wounds.
I have healed pains that I did not even know existed, and have been rewarded with greater self-connection, self-confidence, and an inner sense of personal empowerment that only comes from directly experiencing your darkest demons, and recognizing them as unclaimed fragments of your own soul.
It is a practice that I recommend to men and women professionally and privately, and an integral part in becoming a wholly integrated and healthy sexual human being. 
To learn more about how you can use the sacred art of self-pleasuring to heal your body, mind, and spirit, please visit me at femininemergence.com and get your free E-Book, 7 Keys to Sensual Satisfaction + 3 Secrets to Better Love and Sex.



Staffies make wonderful pets so Kozmo and Storm tackle the media lies's photo.
So who remembers these icons of silent TV? ...... I hardly think Stan Laurel or Oliver Hardy were thugs or idiotic moronic owners, these guys were first class gentlemen comedians of first the silent movies, then the old classics with catchphrases such as, "There's another fine mess you got me into" ....... have to say these dogs were a fine example of the breed ;-) <3 xxx

















So who remembers these icons of silent TV? ...... I hardly think Stan Laurel or Oliver Hardy were thugs or idiotic moronic owners, these guys were first class gentlemen comedians of first the silent movies, then the old classics with catchphrases such as, "There's another fine mess you got me into" ....... have to say these dogs were a fine example of the breed ;-) ♥ xxx

Thursday, 2 May 2013


A Code to Live By.



A Code to Live by:

Bertrand Russell’s Ten Commandments for Living in a Healthy Democracy:
“The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt.” – Bertrand Russell
Another version of same quote:
Another powerful quote:





Nature's wonder captured at its most breathtaking in annual photography contest

  • Nature Photographer of the Year 2013 competition, organised by the Society of German Nature Photographers (GDT)
  • Image of a red fox by 18-year-old Hermann Hirsch won best overall image in all categories
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    An alert young fox stalks his way through long summer grass, bathed in the glow of a balmy evening.  
    A poppy field in full bloom, reminiscent of Monet's painting of the same name, and a fluorescent maple leaf, perfectly framed against a foggy woodland backdrop. 
    All of these stunning images made it through to the final round of the Nature Photographer of the Year 2013 competition, organised by the Society of German Nature Photographers (GDT). 
    But this image of a red fox by Hermann Hirsch was deemed the quintessential portrait of wildlife, and won best overall image in all categories.
    An alert young fox stalks his way through long summer grass, bathed in the glow of a balmy evening, in this image by Hermann Hirsch. It won best image in the Nature Photographer of the Year 2013 competition
    An alert young fox stalks his way through long summer grass, bathed in the glow of a balmy evening, in this image by Hermann Hirsch. It won best image in the Nature Photographer of the Year 2013 competition
    An adult fox prowls through the misty woodland in Fox in cloudy forest, by Klaus Echle. Dozens of images made it through to the final round of the contest
    An adult fox prowls through the misty woodland in Fox in cloudy forest, by Klaus Echle. Dozens of images made it through to the final round of the contest
    Pictures were submitted in the mammals, other animals, plants and fungi, landscapes, nature's studio, and this year's special category, animal portraits
    Pictures were submitted in the mammals, other animals, plants and fungi, landscapes, nature's studio, and this year's special category, animal portraits. This rodent anxiously making its way across a forest floor, pictured in 'When Night Falls' by Christoph Kaula, won third place in the mammals category
    Eighteen-year-old Hermann, is a member of the GDT Group of Young Photographers, and is the youngest person to win the competition. 
     
      Hermann's image 'Evening Idyll' came out on top in a field of 226 GDT members from nine countries, with subjects as diverse as wildlife, fungus, fungus and paint. 
      Landscapes category runner-up: 'Landscapes in Bloom' by Sandra Bartocha. In total 3,577 images were submitted into the competition, which is run exclusively for the Society's members
      Landscapes category runner-up: 'Landscapes in Bloom' by Sandra Bartocha. In total 3,577 images were submitted into the competition, which is run exclusively for the Society's members. It is reminiscent of Monet's Poppy Field
      Landscapes category third place: 'Piano Grande' by Heinz Buls. Every year the GDT organizes the International Nature Photography Festival with slide shows by photographers from all over the world
      Landscapes category third place: 'Piano Grande' by Heinz Buls. Every year the GDT organizes the International Nature Photography Festival with slide shows by photographers from all over the world
      Animals portraits category winner: 'Capercaillie' by Klaus Echle.
      Animals portraits category winner: 'Capercaillie' by Klaus Echle. An exhibition of the photographs entered in the competition will run from May 23 until September at the Federal Agency for Nature Conservation (BfN) in Bonn
      Animals portraits category runner-up: 'Young Lion' by Carsten Ott
      Animals portraits category runner-up: 'Young Lion' by Carsten Ott
      In total 3,577 images were submitted into the competition, which is run exclusively for the Society's members. 
      Every year the GDT organizes the International Nature Photography Festival  with slide shows by photographers from all over the world, with photo exhibitions and seminars on latest subjects of the nature photography.

      A penguin colony makes its way back across a sea sprayed landscape, in Returning from the hunt, by Michael Lohmann. The image won Birds category runner-up and prize of the jury
      A penguin colony makes its way back across a sea sprayed landscape, in Returning from the hunt, by Michael Lohmann. The image won Birds category runner-up and prize of the jury
      This icy tableau won Birds category winner: 'A Frosty Resting Place' by Bernd Nill
      This icy tableau won Birds category winner: 'A Frosty Resting Place' by Bernd Nill
      Dozens of images made it through to the final round of the Nature Photographer of the Year 2013 competition
      Dozens of images made it through to the final round of the Nature Photographer of the Year 2013 competition
      These images were submitted in the internal photo contest, with categories including mammals, other animals, plants and fungi, landscapes, nature's studio, and this year's special category, animal portraits. 
      An exhibition of the photographs entered in the competition will run from May 23 until September at the Federal Agency for Nature Conservation (BfN) in Bonn. 
      A spider is given an eerie makeover in this image 'Spotlight' by Klaus Tamm. It was named winner in the 'other animals category'
      A spider is given an eerie makeover in this image 'Spotlight' by Klaus Tamm. It was named winner in the 'other animals category'
      Plants and fungi category runner-up: 'Maple leaves in Fog Forest' by Joachim Wimmer.
      Plants and fungi category runner-up: 'Maple leaves in Fog Forest' by Joachim Wimmer.
      An image of bubbling mud from was named nature's studio category winner: 'Bubbling' by Sigi Zang
      An image of bubbling mud from was named nature's studio category winner: 'Bubbling' by Sigi Zang


      Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2317760/Nature-Photographer-Year-2013-competition-The-best-animal-kingdom.html#ixzz2SAborJKA
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      The Unofficial Stephen Jay Gould ArchiveUnofficial SJG Archive


      Making it New in Soho:  Stephen Jay Gould and Rhonda Roland Shearer recast a downtown loft
      by Suzanne Stephens

      C
      ity dwellers who acquire industrial lofts are usually quite zealous about keeping the large, undifferentiated spaces completely intact when they convert them for residential use. There are no "afters." With the exception of adding a bath, a kitchen and perhaps a sleeping balcony, the "before" is it. A loft in lower Manhattan designed by New York architect William T. Georgis violates this practice, and with good reason. It had to allow for a complicated array of living and work spaces, including two libraries: one for him and one for her. He is Stephen Jay Gould, the paleontologist, professor and author who has just published a revisionist argument on evolutionary theory, Full House: The Spread of Excellence from Plato to Darwin. She is Rhonda Roland Shearer, an artist and writer whose theoretical essays, such as "Real or Ideal: DNA Iconography in a New Fractal Era," appear in art journals.
      "It was your typical loft building, a former doll factory whose rough-and-tumble decrepitude had been carefully preserved by the artist who had lived there," remembers Georgis of his first visit to the apartment. In transforming the 4,200-square-foot space, he ended up with a design that not only responds to the couple's personal predilections but acts as a metaphor for the themes of evolution and change that are integral to their intellectual pursuits. While Gould and Shearer share similar professional interests, their work patterns differ dramatically. Gould retreats each day to a Stickley roiltop desk in a library lined with books. Shearer, who does her writing, reading and preparatory work for her painting and sculpting in various quarters of the apartment, uses a semiprivate alcove just off the living room for her library. "Spaces reflect the people who make them," she says. "Steve likes to separate himself from people, but I'm more open."
      In addition to the libraries, Georgis was charged with creating living and dining areas, four bedrooms, three baths, a family room and a kitchen as well as studio and storage space for Shearer's art. Moving into a house would have been easier. But the couple, committed to living in New York, rejected the notion of a town house. "They're too dominated by established geometries," observes Shearer. Instead, she and Gould preferred the diversity a loft would offer, since its raw space could be subdivided according to individual needs. "We just stripped it and began again," says Georgis. "The floors were a patchwork of wood with nails sticking out, and there were few interior walls."
      An important consideration is that the loft lets Shearer work where she lives and still have access to a second studio that she maintains nearby. Her artistic process is complex, and her intriguingly cerebral, figural and abstract mixed-media works involve all the senses. "I do the 'clean' work at home, things like drawings and models," she explains, "and the dirty work, involving painting and making sculptures, at the other place."
      Her twelve-and-a-half-foot-high work area merges unencumbered into the open dining and living areas, which reflect Gould and Shearer's desire for spatial and visual variety in their working and living arrangements. "It was a matter of careful negotiation to make everything function together," Shearer remarks.
      Georgis, who had to accomplish this task, agrees. "It seemed impossible to keep both the openness of the loft and at the same time fit in different types of rooms and areas," he says. The fact that his clients came to their new residence with a collection of ostensibly unloftlike antique furniture was the least of his problems. "There actually is a strong affinity between the simplicity of eighteenth-century American furniture and an industrial loft," he says. "I just tried to deploy the pieces in a spare, modern way." In blending these two aesthetics, the architect proposed that wood moldings, doors, floors, cabinets and shelves appear throughout. "I wanted the same basic material everywhere for visual continuity," says Shearer, who favored cherrywood because its warm tones tend a richness to the high ceilings and off-white walls.
      At the same time, it was important to preserve the architectural character of the original spaces. "Steve loved the cast-iron columns, the pressed-tin ceiling and the original windows that imbue the place with its nineteenth-century industrial character," points out project architect Silvina Goefron. But keeping those elements required no small effort. For example, much of the pressed-tin ceiling in the living, dining and work areas had to be removed, stripped and reinstalled. "We were determined to keep the old glass in the front windows," Georgis notes. "The contractor, Curt Royston of RBMc, had to reproduce the original windows with this glass, besides adding wood floors, ceilings, walls, fifteen tons of air-conditioning, a new electric service and extensive plumbing. And he had to do all this in four months."
      The large axial gallery cuts a swath through the loft, punctuated by the cast-iron columns. Like a row of tall trees, they underscore the loft's approximately ninety-foot length.
      The windowless middle section of the apartment contains Gould's library and the family room. The family room, which includes a dining area and kitchen, seems an anomaly—as if one had just stepped into a New England farmhouse. There are Windsor chairs, a William and Mary tavern table and nineteenth-century English iron lanterns. The effect is heightened by the cherry molding that defines the spaces.
      Georgis, however, has subtly modernized the farmhouse vernacular by heightening the flow of spaces between the rooms and mitigating any suggestion of the claustrophobia that can settle like a cloud over windowless interior rooms. He installed sliding wood doors to separate the family room from the gallery. "You can catch glimpses of other rooms from various vistas and angles," Georgis notes. "Yet you still have a feeling of privacy and enclosure."
      ABOVE: The family room features a William and Mary tavern table and Windsor chairs.
      The architect then dropped the ceiling in the family room, which endows the room with a more intimate scale than the living areas at the front of the loft. And he countered the possibility of a closed-in effect by installing a cove on which is mounted a strip of incandescent lights. The softly suffused light bouncing upward makes the actual height of the ceiling somewhat ambiguous. "The ceiling was essential in unifying the kitchen, dining and family area," Shearer comments.
      This intermediate zone, where private and public spaces come together, is backed by a row of bedrooms for the couple's children and guests. The master bedroom is located at the end of the gallery, and it exudes its own distinctive atmosphere, with a fireplace, dark wood, paneled walls and trim and a mix of period furnishings. While lofts rarely come with fireplaces, Gould was clear about his desire for the comfort of a crackling fire, as was Shearer, since she writes in the bedroom. "I'm like Descartes," she adds. "I like, to write in my bed. I'm not a desk person."
      From the master bedroom a back passage leads through a couple of baths to Gould's library. There, tiers of shelves hold antiquarian books on the natural sciences and other scientific tomes as well as Gould's own books which include The Mismeasure of Man and The Panda Thumb.
      Gould, who spends half the year teaching at Harvard, naturally took a particular interest in the design of the library. Yet there was one other place where he participated extensively in the selection of furnishings—the dining area. Instead of placing a single suite of chairs around their Stickley table, Gould and Shearer carefully constructed an arrangement that characterizes the evolution of the chair from the seventeenth through the twentieth centuries. "The selection reflects my concern for geometries and stylistic change, and Steve's for evolution," says Shearer. It begins with a seventeenth-century American slatback armchair, followed by a William and Mary side chair, an American Queen Anne, a Hepplewhite, an Empire chair, a Stickley side chair, a Ruhlmann side chair and, finally, Robert Venturi's 1980s reprise of a Queen Anne chair. "Steve did quite a bit of research on the collection," says his wife. "But we still want to add an out-of-control rococo Victorian chair and an International Style modem chair." The ensemble underscores one of Gould's main points in Full House: Evolution is not a matter of progress from simple to ever more complicated forms but to a variety of types and forms.
      Gould and Shearer's loft seems to operate as a metaphor for the theoretical concerns they express in their work. Its straightforward plan yields a variety of opportunities for their activities, while the changing character of each area and room continually redefines the mood and sensibility of the whole. The result, to borrow from Stephen Jay Gould, well demonstrates "the spread of excellence."


      Wednesday, 1 May 2013


      Confessions Of A Kitchen Witch shared Witches Learning Center'sphoto.
      Beltane was a time of fertility and unbridled merrymaking, when young and old would spend the night making love in the Greenwood. Older married couples were allowed to remove their wedding rings (and the restrictions they imply) for this one night. 

Women traditionally would braid flowers into their hair. Men and women alike would decorate their bodies. They would process back home, stopping at each house to leave flowers, and enjoy the best of food and drink that the home had to offer. 

In every village, the maypole, usually a birch or ash pole was raised, and dancing and feasting began. Many communities elected a virgin as their "May Queen" to lead marches or songs. To the Celts, she represented the virgin goddess on the eve of her transition from Maiden to Mother. Depending on the time and place, the consort might be named "Jack-in-the-Green", "Green Man", "May Groom", or "May King". The union of the Queen and her consort symbolized the fertility and rebirth of the world. 

This is the Love Dance of the Gods, the Wedding of Heaven and Earth, the Bridal feast of the Goddess! It is customary that Handfastings, for a year and a day, occur at this time. These are trial marriages that typically occur between couples before deciding to embark on life eternal. It was understood by our ancestors that one does not really know another until they live with them, and things change. With this understanding, unions were entered upon, first with a test period, and then a further commitment. It was kept in mind that only through the choice of both to remain, could the relationship exist. We come together today to celebrate the union of our Lady and Lord. 

Blessed be!

Excerpted from:  Beltane Celebration 2012 by Wiccans of the Crossroads, NYC.

Image:  Artist unknown, found on http://witchsandrini.blogspot.com/2011_04_01_archive.html
      Beltane was a time of fertility and unbridled merrymaking, when young and old would spend the night making love in the Greenwood. Older married couples were allowed to remove their wedding rings (and the restrictions they imply) for this one night.

      Women traditionally would braid flowers into their hair. Men and women alike would decorate their bodies. They would process back home, stopping at each house to leave flowers, and enjoy the best of food and drink that the home had to offer.

      In every village, the maypole, usually a birch or ash pole was raised, and dancing and feasting began. Many communities elected a virgin as their "May Queen" to lead marches or songs. To the Celts, she represented the virgin goddess on the eve of her transition from Maiden to Mother. Depending on the time and place, the consort might be named "Jack-in-the-Green", "Green Man", "May Groom", or "May King". The union of the Queen and her consort symbolized the fertility and rebirth of the world.

      This is the Love Dance of the Gods, the Wedding of Heaven and Earth, the Bridal feast of the Goddess! It is customary that Handfastings, for a year and a day, occur at this time. These are trial marriages that typically occur between couples before deciding to embark on life eternal. It was understood by our ancestors that one does not really know another until they live with them, and things change. With this understanding, unions were entered upon, first with a test period, and then a further commitment. It was kept in mind that only through the choice of both to remain, could the relationship exist. We come together today to celebrate the union of our Lady and Lord.

      Blessed be!

      Excerpted from: Beltane Celebration 2012 by Wiccans of the Crossroads, NYC.

      Image: Artist unknown, found on http://witchsandrini.blogspot.com/2011_04_01_archive.html




      10 Things You Need to Stop Doing Today to be Happier.



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      We tend to be unconscious of behaviors that are causing pain and unnecessary suffering in our lives.

      If we could just become more conscious of behaviors that are leading to the pain in our lives, we would be a lot happier. Today we can start giving up some of the things in our life that are causing this conflict.

      1. Stop complaining.

      Don’t find fault, find a remedy; anybody can complain.
      ~ Henry Ford

      Nobody wants to be around someone who complains all the time. Yet we all do it. Instead of finding a reason to complain, look for the solution if you’re facing a problem. Look for something positive in your life. There’s always something positive to find in our life if we shift our focus.

      2. Stop Judging.

      We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.
      ~ Paulo Coelho

      Stop judging other peoples lives and focus on perfecting your own life. We spend so much time gossiping rather than working on perfecting ourselves. Focus on your own life, and how you’re going to perfect it.

       3. Stop avoiding your fear.

      Run from what’s comfortable. Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious.
      ~ Rumi

      Fear is an obnoxious thing—it slows you down from finding a career you love, a romantic relationship and pursing your dreams. Do something that makes you uncomfortable every day, in small steps, and it will dramatically alter the course of your life.

      4. Stop being so hard on yourself.

      When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.
      ~ African Proverb

      The biggest enemy that you face is the one inside you—this enemy criticizes, condemns, and complains. Don’t let these unconscious patterns run your life.
      Come to terms with these patterns. The biggest enemy you ever have to face in the one inside of you.

      5. Stop being negative.

      Misery loves company.
      ~ Anonymous

      If you focus on being negative it’s going to show up everywhere in your life. It will show up in your work, relations and everything else. Shift your focus away from being so negative all the time. Find things that make you come alive!

      6. Stop caring about what other people think of you.

      Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.
      ~ Lao Tzu

      Every great artist, musician, political leader, ignored what people thought of them. Other people’s opinions of you are none of your business. What people think of you should not drown out your own inner voice and inspirations.

      7. Stop worrying about the small stuff.

      When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.
      ~ Winston Churchil

      Think about all the unnecessary worries that go through your mind all day. We worry about why someone is not returning our emails, texts, phone calls. We worry about everything and anything.
      Focus on what you can do at the present moment and not about how you can worry about the outcome.

      8. Stop needing to be right all the time.

      The need to be right all the time is the biggest bar to new ideas. It is better to have enough ideas for some of them to be wrong than to be always right by having no ideas at all.
      ~ Edward De Bono

      Stop needing to be right all the time, this can lead to so many unnecessary arguments. Instead of needing to be right, start working on being more open to other peoples opinions. Start asking more questions and become more interested in other people’s points of view. It may open a whole new dimension of life.

      9. Stop blaming others.

      People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.
      ~ George Bernard Shaw

      We constantly blame everyone for all types of different things. Quit blaming other people for your circumstances. If you want to change something go out and do it! Don’t blame someone for your present day situations.

      10. Stop living in the past or the future.

      You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment.
      ~ Henry David Thoreau

      So much of our attention is on past experiences or on how we will be in the future. Focus your mind on the present moment. We would be so much happier if we placed our attention on the present.
      Editor: Lynn Hasselberger